I once dated a guy who said he didn’t believe in compromise.
I don’t know if he misinterpreted the concept, as in the difference between feeling personally compromised vs. finding a balance between the needs of two different parties, but of course it wasn’t a good sign, deteriorating to the point of him not showing up for my birthday as his way of breaking up with me. Nice.
Thankfully, a quick recovery was in store as I met my super sweet husband to be shortly after that and he is awesomely good at compromising, usually even leaning past middle ground over to my direction. Especially when it comes to generously sharing ice cream or other sweet treats. The 60/40 compromise in my favour works quite fine for me, and as most of us know, a happy wife and life go hand in hand. Besides, he gets the 60/40 share when it comes to potato chips.
Compromise doesn’t have to be just on a person to person level though. It can manifest through choices we make on a tangible basis where we don’t necessarily get every thing we ever wanted right away but instead find a healthy balance.
My husband and I have wanted to upgrade our kitchen from the moment we bought our current house. Not to knock it, figuratively, as the cupboards are full wood and good quality. But the early 1980’s was a different time, style and function wise.
So we envisioned knocking out all, literally, including the island, for a full redo. We saved up over a year and thought we were good to go. But IKEA changed their styles and increased their prices. And we have a rotten ant eaten bay window to replace. Those ants can eat wood and money like it’s going out of style.
Suddenly, what had been enough kitchen money was nowhere near enough.
Kitchen compromise here we came. We (mostly my husband) recently installed just one side of a new kitchen including a healthy full cupboard pantry, three upper cabinets and two lower drawer sets. They feel like luxury compared to what was there before and I have room for all my baking supplies and much more, but no stress inducing debt.
We simply have to keep saving and patiently wait until we can finish the rest of the kitchen at a future date when we can afford to do so – e.g. within a year or so. (With no concerns of the style being unavailable as the brand is brand new.)
In the meanwhile, I get to bake in my partially new kitchen and eat at least 60% of the cookies I make. What a sweet compromise.